How to Resolve Political Conflicts with Friends and Loved Ones
Have you recently had a big argument or noticed some distance growing between you and someone close because of politics? Maybe you’ve had discussions in the past about elections, but now things feel tense or divided because of the current political climate. For many people, especially those who follow Jesus Christ, the way they vote is connected to their values, like caring for the poor, the outsider, and promoting equality for all races. Maybe it’s protecting the defenseless, the unwanted.
It’s clear from conversations—whether public or private—that most people don’t fully agree with either the Democratic or Republican platforms. So, how can we come together when so many are criticizing one side or the other? Where should we start?
Here are a few ideas to help bring people back together in a respectful and loving way:
Acknowledge that it’s okay to disagree. It’s normal to be disturbed with everything that’s happening in the political world right now. You can admit that you don’t fully agree with one side or the other.
Apologize if politics came between you in a relationship. Sometimes, we unintentionally let politics come before the people we care about. If that’s happened, it can be helpful to say you’re sorry for putting politics ahead of your connection.
Explain your voting choices. If the other person wants to know, share why you voted the way you did and what mattered most to you when you cast your ballot. Be willing to listen to their reasons. Being honest about your values can help others understand where you’re coming from. Don’t share if the person tells you they don’t want to talk about it.
Empathize with others. Try to understand the suffering people are going through. Being empathetic can help you see the bigger picture and open up meaningful conversations.
Stop pretending you have all the answers. It’s easy to think you’re right all the time, but no one has all the answers. Being open to learning from others can help grow your relationship and understanding.
Focus on God’s agenda. Conservative Christianity and conservative politics are not the same thing, google the definitions. It’s important to put aside political agendas and focus on the love, kindness, and justice that Jesus calls his followers to. Read all of your Bible or listen to all of it on a Bible app. You may be surprised and have a lot of questions.
Remind each other that you care.
End the conversation by letting your loved ones know that you love them. Don’t see them as an enemy just because of a difference in opinion. You’ve known each other for a long time, and maybe there’s something new you can learn about each other—and about God—through this experience.
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